Ted which stands for technology, education, design is a platform for the best and brightest in the world to share their creations. It started in 1984 and ever since it has hosted many gems. But perhaps one talk influenced me the most. It is called “Why We Do What We Do” by Tony Robbins.
Tony Robbins is the world’s most prolific public speaker in the field of peak performance. He has coached and educated millions of people through his seminars and books. This is a 22 minute talk for people in business looking to improve their performance.
This talk is about the forces that shape us and why we do what we do. He talks about 2 master lessons, which are the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment. The science of achievement is the science of getting your objectives in an effective way.
It is how you take your dream and manifest it into reality. The art of fulfillment is contribution and being part of something bigger than yourself. While the science of achievement is self-cantered, the art of fulfillment is people centered. He also talks about three decisions of destiny that are vital to fulfillment.
They are, “‘What are you focusing on?’ ‘What does it mean?’ and ‘What are you going to do next?’ ” What you focus on is what determines your next move as it dictates whether you see opportunity or defeat. What does it mean is your analysis of your choice and what you do next is your final outcome for better or worse.
He then shares two fundamental forces that shape you. The first is state, which is your emotion and physical condition at the moment as this is what shapes your next decision. The second is your model of the world.
It is the filter through which you make your decisions. Finally he shares six human needs that give you fulfillment. These needs are either fulfilled destructively or positively. For example one can feel significant by threatening someone or loving someone.
The first need is certainty, which is the knowledge that pleasure is certain and pain is avoidable. This gives a sense of safety and security. This can be fuelled positively by developing a skill and having a routine.
The second is uncertainty, which is the need for the unknown. This gives you variety and ensures you are being stimulated. This is fuelled by going outside your comfort zone and exposing yourself to new stimuli.
The third need is significance. This gives you a feeling of importance and uniqueness.This is fuelled by accomplishing a goal such as making more money.
The fourth need is connection/love. This is the feeling of connection with someone. It is fuelled through intimacy, friendship, prayer etc. while these needs are important, they won’t give you fulfillment and so the next 2 needs are the needs of the spirit, which will give you fulfillment.
The fifth need is growth. Without growth life is stagnant. Growth is the reason for living and is a key component of fulfillment. Man is happiest when he grows. Growth according to Robbins is attained by contributing beyond yourself, which is the sixth need.
Contributing beyond yourself is the reason why giving feels better than taking. This is cemented by Marshall Goldsmith, one of the top leadership thinkers in the world, who said, “Retiring CEOs never talk about how big their office was, they always talk about the people they helped.”
Giving is what truly gives you fulfillment. This talk is interesting to me because I am very interested in success and this outlines the true meaning of success.
Tony Robbin’s TED talk is an amazing message and should be adopted by anyone looking to improve themselves. I am trying to integrate this talk into my life and the principles in this talk are for successful people. We should all listen to this talk and become the great men of the future.